First love by Ivan S. Turgenev presents a lot of situations were the charachters did good and bad things, I personally think that Vladimir did everything wrong, he couldn't handle Zinaida, I don't blame him, Zinaida is 5 years older, it is obvious that shes going to have way more exoerience than him, in fact Zinaida did good things, or she thinked smarter, one of the situations she did good was when he was controlling every guy and had everyone around her, so they could do her the favors she wanted, another one is when Zinaida played Vladimir, her and his father were going out in secret, not for Vladimir though, on the other side Zinaida thinked good, the next day after Vladimir knew that there was going on something with his father and Zinaida, she kissed him again so he wouldn't get mad or feel worthless. And at the begining I wrote that Vladimir didn't do anything good, because Zinaida was controlling him with little kisses.
How is first love for the first time:
The story of first love reflects to real life experiences, my experience was a little different, and I was unprepared and without any experience like Vladimir's situation, even though we all have our first love, its not the same one as others, some of us cry, some of us take it funny and not serious, even some people kill themselves because of love, to avoid tragedies and sadness, maybe I could give my personal pont of view and advise for not being sad after falling in love with someone. When I first had my first love at the age of 11 I liked this Girl named Ivette,
We first started like friends and one year after we became bestfriends, she started gaving me signs that I liked her and I did as well, she hugged me she was all over me, one night we went to get Ice cream and I wanted to tell her that I liked her and ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, so I did, one block before we arrived to her house I asked her to stop amd wait. I was nervous and finally I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, she was quiet for a bit and she finally answered, Ivette told me that she was confused and he was going to think about it and I was shaking, I told her that I loved her so much and tried to steal her a kiss, first I hugged her and she tried to pull away so I let her' she ran into her house, the next day I had lost my best friend, I was crying alone inside of my classroom and thats the first and obly time I cried for "love" today i feel love but not to the point that I would cry or feel bad, why is this though? Because love comes and goes so quick, and every time a situation of love makes you stronger and makes you think before you act, if you feel "love" against someone, don't think about it and express what you feel, if you just want that person for not being bored and kill time just do it, it's not illegal to have more that one love and cheat in someone, on the other hand if you love someone with the fact that you are willing to stay with that person for a long period, take it serious but not put all the love on him/her, there's a 56% on this world that couples claim to be happy, the other 44% cheat or don't love their partner anymore.
This are my personal advices and opinions though, maybe I think different as others, but in love, it's better to try and gain experience so you don't get lost and have bad situations like mine or even worse.